Strengthening the Individual

It Can Change In A Moment

When I first started in martial arts there was one evening that massivelt influenced whether I would succeed or not. We had just finished class and had circled up for the finalbit of advice. Shun Shifu Perez had entered and was at the front ready to speak. We all anxiously awaited his wise words. There were about 30 people in the class. All very new white belts. Enthusiastic and eager. He told us to look around. To look at each person in the group. To look at their face and make eye contact. He then told us that IF any one of us made it to the next level that none of the people that we now saw would be there. I don’t know what got into me that night but I got angry. Very angry. By that point in my life I had had a lot of discouragement thrown at me. I had just finally got out of two years in an out of the hospital. That had left me with the loss of sight in one eye. That having happened just at the start of my college years I had lost out on what I had thought was a bright college future as well. At that point in my life I really wasn’t one to fight back against the misfortunes of life. I wasn’t one to reject the discouragement thrown at me. But at that moment, for reasons unknown to me, I was. Instead of facing the reality that statistically I would not make it and because I did not seem to be one of the stronger students in class I was very unlikely to make it, instead I got angry. And the anger of that moment has carried me for decades. “EFF U Shun Shifu Perez” Thank You Shun Shifu Perez!

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In the Darkest Moments

I just left an old friend’s house. I had not seen him in over a decade but I needed to reach out.  Two days ago he lost his daughter to a drunk driver. After inviting me in he recounted the past two days. The whirlwind of emotions. And of course, I just listened. Then after an hour or so he started recalling the old training days. His daughter was a student of mine and so was he. He started talking about students he had taught back then and the joy of seeing them change. He described one student he remembered in particular. How the young man had come in with his head down, weak and depressed. Then how after so many months how strong and confident he was. I didn’t remember the young man but I’ve seen the story a thousand times. And every time it brings me joy. He then told me stories about what his Shou’ Shu’ had done for him over the years. He was smiling and laughing. Just remembering how it felt to help others and how it felt to feel strong brought him an hour of joy in a very dark day. I was and am very grateful to be able to be part of that.  

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It’s Always the Individual

Most arguments of what should be, exist at the macro level. It’s easier for the simpler, and often wrong, argument to exist there. It’s easier to stay in the self-righteous there. Yet the real problem, which is apparent, is often exposed at the micro-level. And more often than not, problems which are blamed on a business or even a large corporation, are really produced, exacerbated, or at least the solution hindered because of the individual. In other words, if individuals acted more ethically, with more thought for other individuals, and without false entitlement, the problem would be solvable or diminished. Example: I was just speaking to a friend about the economics of food. this is a subject that interests me and my wife and I work hard to make food choices that are healthy for us, benefit the environment, and benefit the economies of those who produce food in more friendly ways. These are extremely important decisions to us. My friend runs a catering company that serves lunches to the employees of a large IT company. These employees demand that certain products are organic and properly sourced. A reasonable request. So to make that happen the economics must work. Not difficult, prices can be adjusted to match. The caterer can make a profit and the consumers can get what they want. That is capitalism and it is good. However, there is a problem. The lunches are subsidized by the IT company.  I don’t know what it is about when there is a third party involved but in my observance, this creates a risk for things to go badly. And in this case, it did. The employees, seeing that there was high-quality honey, coffee, and whatever else, began stealing the products. Making the economics of the endeavor fail. These were not street urchins, these are employees of a tech firm. People earning large salaries. Yet they steal and think nothing of it. The argument is then made again that the caterer should provide high quality, yet he is stuck. They are stealing his profits. He can’t get the explanation of the real problem across to the subsidy provider. They don’t care. So he is in a conundrum. Likely his only response will be to do something underhanded himself, like substitute inferior products. And if that is discovered he’ll be the only one to receive blame. This is how these things often go. The employees will go on to require the products they want. The problem will be assessed to be profit mongering on the part of the caterer. And the issue will persist. Unsolved. This is a case where much good can be done. Good vendors could be supported leading to all sorts of good things. The employees could get healthier food. The caterer could make a little better profit for taking the extra effort to ensure higher quality. But none of this will happen. Everyone will be at each other’s throats, allaying blame where it does not belong. And the true problem, the pilfering, will persist. This is just a small example. These problems can be cited all day long. And if we dig into the weeds we will always find the true problem to be with the individual. This is why I: 1) Never get involved in these macro-arguments that dismiss the true issue due to oversimplification 2) Work very hard to help the individuals under my influence to develop into better individuals. 3) Support the Sheng Chi Foundation Maybe the next time you find yourself in an oversimplified macro-argument which misses the real problem and will solve nothing, you can instead remove yourself and do something that will do good. Imagine if that happened even ten percent of the time. How better off would we all be?  Don’t argue. Do something good. Study Shou’ Shu’, it’s the best personal development tool there is.    

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